It's behind a cut since I know these things can be triggering (or just plain boring) for many people.
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Ten a.m. tomorrow morning (approximately) will mark a full week since Dad's death.
Aunt Cheryl and her family--including her ex, which may sound stranger to the rest of the world than it does to us--all drove out on Thursday and Friday, and Aunt Lynn's husband and boy went out on Thursday as well. Lynn will be flying back out on Sunday. But I changed my ticket so that I'll be staying until the 19th of next month. Hopefully that will be enough time to get my mother into a routine.
On the one hand it seems too long, but on the other too short. I've a feeling that would be the case whether I flew out in three days or waited three months. I do know that if it were just me, and Mom wasn't in the picture, I'd have been on the first plane back to Montana within five minutes of Dad's burial. Mom told me that it hurts being here, but she still seems to be deriving some comfort from being in the house. Good for her, and I'm doing my level best not to project my emotional issues onto her, but I just don't feel the same. The sheer presence of Dad's absence is too overwhelming.
Lynn, Grandmama, Mom, and I are going to see Dad's attorney in a couple hours, and then we'll be meeting with Dad's oncologist to see if we could possibly get some questions answered as to what, exactly, went so badly wrong when Dad first seemed to be doing so well.
Thanks for your reply. I’ve added more writers into the database
recently. But I *absolutely* will not add people into the database due
to their race or gender. I will not search for lists of white, black,
Asian, Hispanic, or any other types of people that you _took care to
differentiate_. All people are equal to me, and equality means not
looking at skin color or different types of chromosomes.
I think the question is closed.
See that, there? Sounds really good at face value, doesn't it? Notice how he makes it all teaberryblue 's fault, implying that she's the one who doesn't see people as equal because she went out of her way to differentiate them.
Only one problem with that. If you truly see people as equals, you will recognize your bias in selecting a list of all whites and nearly all men, and make a conscious effort to be much more inclusive. It certainly can NOT be suggested that there are none, or so few, PoC authors who are inadequately distinguished enough to be on that list. And suggesting that equality means not looking at skin color or gender falls very, very short of its intended interpretation when you have utterly failed to look past your aforementioned inherent bias and compiled a list of exclusively white, and nearly all male, persons.
Unlocked. And I'm in no mood to for concern trolling or mansplaining attempts to defend this shit. So don't. This is your only warning.
Know what woke me up this morning? The sharp, tonal cries of a fuckin' sea gull on my fire escape. A sea gull! I'll never get used to the little buggers being so prolific inland.
"obama hadn't changed anything bush did in office. That's proof bush was right. Other wise Obama would change it all wouldn't he? Obv bush was spot on" (sic)